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Public health crises collide: Substance abuse linked to COVID-19 susceptibility
"Meanwhile, experts say there is a second public health crisis intertwined with this pandemic. And that's the substance abuse crisis. Opioids, tobacco and cocaine increased the risk of death from covert 19 this from a new study published in molecular psychiatry funded by the National Institutes of Health Drugs like heroin, Oxy, codeine and fentanyl, slow down the breathing rate. And substance abuse, combined with the covert 19 infection could be deadly because the virus makes it harder to properly taken oxygen
Drug Addiction In America
"Woken to Mentally Yours Metro could ikaes weekly podcast about all things mental health. Today we're talking to Dave. Marlon, he was the CEO of crossroads of Southern Nevada, which was the largest addiction and Rehab Center in the area, the psychotherapist drug and alcohol counselor, and he basically knows everything about addiction and mental health issues in the US and beyond. Making me talking tim today about how the pandemic has been affected addiction issues to get help if you're struggling and how to recognize if you might have a problem with drugs or alcohol. Bruce Dave. Thanks so much for joining us on mental yours and welcome from across the pond. My first question was basically because obviously as I mentioned, we're in London. You're in the US, it such different situation in terms of addiction, mental health, and obviously the pandemic to get started. Could you give kind of a brief overview of the reality of addiction in the US? How serious the problem is that how widespread is a? The Robert Wood Johnson Foundation calls addiction the number one health problem in the US. If we look at the the number of prescription opiates that are consumed in the entire world The United States consumes more than eighty percent of them. We. have. You know we've always had an alcohol problem for a percentage of our population. we we developed enough and phetamine mean and a cocaine problem over the last. Twenty years, and in the last five, six years Oh actually even a little longer. An opiate problem has has become. Our most serious addiction challenge. Kind of the most common addiction issue that you see people coming into your center with. It it's interesting. I've run Iran the largest treatment center in Las. Vegas of. Gene. Years. And now as a private center and they're absolutely opiates or over my last three, four years, they're opiates was the number one drug of choice that clients had presented to solutions recovery without the opiate use disorder their primary. Primary substance. Now I work at an indigent facility in in downtown. Las Vegas where. More than half of our clients are homeless. And what's interesting is with this demographic, there's a much higher methamphetamine use. Would say my number one. Substance of for clients is nothin vitamin with opiates and alcohol running for a close second place. That's really interesting I. Think What was interesting that you said kind of opiates have been coming up over the lost six years because for me, it's felt like the coverage has been really recent like only in the last couple of years, we taught it to the opioid crisis this being a sudden kind of unexpected issue but you're saying it's been building for a long time. It has. Interestingly, fourteen years ago I was running the largest health insurance company in the state. And I remember in my last. My last year or two I remember looking at pharmacy reports and we were all scratching our heads saying what is this Oxycontin and why did it not show up two years ago and now I remember when across the ten million dollar mark at the Insurance Company for monthly use so it really begins began spiking. Thirteen fourteen years ago. It became. Newsworthy in fashionable. Six seven years ago, and now we're a were still squarely in an opiate epidemic.
Analyze Your Good Feelings
"This is mindset minute Monday. The Danish word Hugo means to acknowledge a special feeling or moment. It's a practice whereby use small touches a candle, a soft sweater coffee with friends to intentionally cultivate a of warmth and coziness in your life. This practice highlights how small changes can add up to a meaningful difference in your life experience. This week I challenge you to become aware of when you're feeling especially good and analyze it. WHO's there? What are you doing? What's your environment like take note, and try to intentionally inject these small dents into other situations to see if you can ever. So slightly elevate the way that you're feeling.
Living a Daring Live with Mazi Robinson
"Welcome everyone to another not another anxiety show seniority. TOLD GONNA stutter. I, Erica Letham and I am with knees Robinson. How are you? I'm. Good I'm so glad to be with you this morning. Thanks so much for having me Oh. Absolutely. I'm just gonNa read a bio because I love it when people give me a bio I. Talk about Maisy is a licensed professional counselor speaker specializing in helping women discover their true voice as they navigate self worth self esteem challenges, relationship concerns, and life stage transitions by the way you and I will be talking after this in addition to her work as a therapist can maintains an active speaking schedule presenting workshops on topics such as anxiety, healing, healthy relationships, personal growth, and purposeful living. She's also a certified daring facilitator hallowed be dining, presenting, workshop and retreat space on research and methodology of Dr Bernard. My favorite person, Brown you individuals and groups. Me Is the founder and director of cultivate. which will obviously talk about threats counseling center and by monthly gatherings cultivate encourages women to cultivate joy courage in freedom in their lives as they pursue emotional, mental and spiritual health meath resides in Atlanta Georgia with her husband and. She's an avid friends. Fan loves dinner on Porch with friends and is passionate about telling women they are loved and worthy, and so he so happy you're here. Out Thank you. Thank you for having me. Excited to chat. So we were talking as. As you know. I frankly and sweaty was getting on air here. I have a couple Internet Faux Pas. I spent an awful lot of time in the south for work especially in in your neck woods near near Atlanta and I've been called a damn Yankee a couple of times our. I spent enough time I. Went to college in the West and There are a lot of folk that move there and someone i. To listeners if I drop my New York drawl and pick up a little bit of a southern trying as we. But. A welcome and dying to know what exactly daring facilitator as because you know if you're a browns fan like we are in, are a lot of our listeners are what the heck is that how do I become you? Can I think my head against yours? What is it? Yes. So very nice. ACILITATOR is someone who has been trained in research and the methodology of Brunei Brown and you are trained to facilitate the curriculums that she has written. That are based on her books to gifts of imperfection daring greatly, and rising strong, and then there are certified there to leave facilitators that are trained to. The curriculum that goes along with her books near to lead, which is for businesses in corporate work. In that sort of thing I I am a huge Bernice, out fan I have to say that Her work literally changed my life or Yeah in tooth and I'll I'll Kinda make the story short. But in two thousand, twelve several people from different areas of my life kept asking me if I had seen this woman's Ted talk and they're like name grenade or rene or something like that. This is before Burnett like really hit it big. And like we're five people in the course of a couple of months kept mentioning Ted Talk to me and finally I was like, okay, got to figure out who this woman is and what she's about and so because I tend to be a little bit upset. I I was. I was just going to dive right into Rene, and so I spent the whole, all of two thousand, twelve reading everything she'd ever written, and at that time she had dreamed books out Thought, it was just me the gift of imperfection enduring greatly had had just come out and I spent reading everything. She never written every article I listened to every podcast interview I just really like speak to myself in grenade for several months and I was totally taken aback I've felt like everything that she talked about in her books was what I heard everyday clients talking about on my couch and and I also felt like she was giving voice and naming so many things that that I still struggled with in my life that you know just in whole concept of shame. Keeps a small and and and chain can sometimes we really loud in our lives and sometimes it can be really covert and just recognizing in my own life like, wow, there there are a lot of ways in my life right now that I'm still hiding and you would never know from looking like looking out you know looking from the outside in you know I was at the time was a practicing therapist as I am still now and I'm giving talks and you know and I was out there but I realize in reading from work and reading her research I realized how? To little ways that I'm hiding hiding in things that I I do hiding in things that I never try hiding in people that I'm like Oh. We don't have anything in common I'M NOT GONNA you know get to know her just lots of little ways and and so I started taking comes little baby steps to come out of hiding really really small things that again, no one on the outside would have noticed any difference in my life but I was taking these little steps that felt very vulnerable to me and to my life and one baby step led to another baby step led to another baby step. And in two thousand thirteen. I had been working at a counseling center here in Atlanta were seven years at the time and or six years, and in two thousand and spring two, thousand thirteen. I went out on my own and started my own private practice and and it was because of Brunei and I know I recognized how cheesy. I mean out of my mouth, but it was you know these months with like Oh my goodness. I'm hiding I'm playing small. I. Am giving into those messages of shame and scarcity and I'm not enough I'm not enough capable enough. I'm not business minded enough and you know there was just a lot of not enough nece still going on in my life despite being a therapist and having done years of personal growth and development work and all of those daily steps to this big professional league of going out on my own and starting my own practice which you know has ended up just being. Probably one of the two best decisions ever in my entire life and So in the spring of two, thousand, thirteen I went out on my own, and then that summer was when I went to Texas for the training to be a certified waste, acilitator and So the the work the training just allows you to do a deeper dive into the work and teaches you how to teach the material to others how how to. Apply it to your client work and and so I, I hold daring way retreat to hold rising strong retreats and I integrate the work into my clients and and it's really foundational in a lot of ways to my practice and how I conceptualize shame with clients, and how I talk about all the different ways we armor up we protect ourselves from vulnerability and it's just been life changing personally and professionally for me.
Taking the blame for their behavior
"Interesting topic today that I was actually going to read on my other podcast love and abuse about emotionally abusive relationships and toxic communication poisonous behavior. If you're interested in anything like that head over to Lebanon Dot Com however today I'm going to read you a message that I got four that show that going to read on this show. So I don't know if I said that right, but it's going to happen no matter what the message has to do with who started the argument and healthy versus unhealthy communication. What is the best way to express yourself especially when you're in an argument and I know I didn't talk about this. Did. Talk about this not too long ago. It might have been on this show on on healthy ways to argue I talk about a lot of stuff all the time. So if you ever hear me repeat myself. Just, look at it as another way to convey the message, the same message but in a way that may be a it helps as opposed to something else that you heard on the show before that didn't help. So, let me see if I can make it work save I can make this letter work for you this message comes from someone I'll just call Jane. Jane Rights and I'll I'll explain a few things. As I read this Jane Rights I recently started listening to your podcast and downloaded the mean workbook. The workbook score was one hundred and fourteen, which didn't come as too much of a surprise to me because I felt mistreated for years now. So, mean workbook let me just explain is available eleven of US dot com, and what it is helps you determine the level of control manipulation and abuse or emotional abuse in your relationship. And it typically goes toward romantic relationships, but you can use it for any relationship. And a score of one hundred and fourteen out of about two hundred three items that will reflect. Abuse and manipulation in a relationship is the score that she received. So I think that's like class I have like four classes in that workbook ABC and DC so I think that's classy that she received them. That's up there that class is up there the higher, the score, the worse your situation is, and you are probably experiencing some major form of toxic behavior or emotional abuse of some sort. So she's writing to me and telling me this and I definitely sympathize because one hundred fourteen is high that means that you're dealing with a lot of crap and here dealing with a lot of stuff that it's very hard to deal with. So thank you for sharing that. We're GONNA read the rest of this email. Now she says have only one question I'm having a really hard time figuring out who started it. I know that I use some of the manipulation tactics when I'm in defense mode. But I feel that my husband would say that my behavior is what causes his outbursts. Let me give an example of a typical argument. He always starts the fight and she put quotes around starts and fight. I am very conflict averse and I hate to fight even when I'm upset about something I'll usually justify in my mind and let it go not good I know he will usually approach me to let me know that I forgot to do something or not shown him proper appreciation for something. He. Will say you don't love me because if you did. You wouldn't have forgotten this. Or. something. Like if you've really appreciated me, you would act differently. There's usually some name calling and at the very least the implication that I'm selfish irresponsible, stupid narcissistic and the list goes on and on. In the past he would yell, but over the years, he has gotten better about that. Now he tries to speak softly but his words still feel like he's attacking me it's always you did this and that means you are this insert anything to make me feel horrible about myself. I believe that he has his own insecurities in he is acknowledged that he has abandonment issues I. believe that although I know I'm not forgetting things on purpose I have adhd. So that makes things even worse. He takes as if he is my last priority if my opinion differs from his or if I'm busy and keeping up with life, he feels neglected he feels distance and he wants to pull me closer. He goes about it by accusing me of terrible things in criticizing the. So back to my original question what if I am the reason for his bad behaviour? One of his complaints are justified and I'm the one not treating him with enough sensitivity.
Dealing with COVID Anxiety
"And welcome to this week's episode of Psych Central. PODCAST. I'm your host gave Howard and calling into the show today we have. Dr, just lean shot wall. She is the chief medical officer and Director of Mood Disorders Program at Sierra Tucson, a premier residential, behavioral, Health Treatment Centre Dr Chow while welcome to the show. Thanks for having me. I'm delighted to be here. We are super excited to have you here today because you're also an anxiety expert and many people who aren't used to feeling the effects of anxiety are because of covid. So I WANNA start with are you seeing people that never had anxiety? And stress issues before suddenly developing anxiety disorders because of the global pandemic. I am noticing that there are a lot of people who noticed anxiety type symptoms and since they've never really experienced them before they're really taken aback and they don't really know what's going on and so I feel like one of our big duties at this time is to help people become more aware because I think once you can name the beast benefits a lot easier to tame the beast and I think a lot of individuals will have a hard time if they don't know what to call it or what to do with it. The psych central podcast has been on the air for almost five years psych central dot Com has been around for twenty five years. So we are well versed in mental health advocacy. And for the most part, it's always sort of been in its own little corner. There's the people that have a mental health issue or a mental illness, and they understand it. There's people who developed one or have a loved one who develops a mental health issue or mental illness, and they're searching for information, but by and large the majority of the population. Was Not discussing this openly we've seen that changed dramatically in the last six months where suddenly it's sort of mainstream news about how adult that never had any mental health issues before are suddenly a suffering from the symptoms of depression anxiety stress and on and on and on. It's a lot of people talk about anxiety like it's a pathological thing. I really try to. Explain to people how anxiety is normal. You have to have the neurobiological fear response to see safe as a human being like you are going to the Grand Canyon and walking over the skywalk. The fact that we don't just climb over the rail and try to jump down is because we do have a biological response to anything that's not within the normal human experience or. Scope if you think about having a snake your chair, you want to have an anxiety response so that you can quickly panic and run and what will happen. If you don't have that fear responses, you will die because the snake will bite you or you'll have some pretty negative consequences of that. How can you not having society when you're being told all day on the? News that you need to take all these extra precautions to just be safe to not fall sake to make sure your loved ones don't die. That is something that just normally will cause some degree of anxiety the difference between that type of anxiety and what can be called a DSM anxiety disorder ends up being that it becomes overwhelming to the point that you can't function. And what we start to see people who may have had a higher level of anxiety before were being able to do things to help themselves like going to the gym to work out or going for a run outside or spending time with loved ones all people they're coping skills have been taken away, and that is where you start seeing that they now fall into more that clinical anxiety. Disorder category if you look at most mental health conditions, they are on a spectrum and it just really depends on how far along the spectrum you are. Today could be that today it's a disorder, but a week ago or two weeks ago wasn't quite meeting the criteria. One of the themes that runs through the sake central podcast we try to explain that mental health and physical health actually. Are. They have a lot in common meaning most people have good physical health. Most of the time you can still get a cold. You can still get injured and that's a very temporary problem but you can also have, for example, diabetes, which is severe and persistent and lifelong mental health is the same way I. Think a lot of people think that you either have good mental health or. You're mentally ill and that there's nothing in between do you believe that because of the pandemic people are starting to realize that everybody has mental health and that you can have the equivalent of of a cold which in in this case is stress and anxiety or panic do you think this is helping to educate people that we all have mental health and anything can trigger bad mental health. I think reading a lot more content about that in very popular channels, Navy your podcast, or me this our world. But other people for whom this is not their world. We are seeing them talk more about mental and in my own World I try not to talk about somebody having just mental illness I think about mental health on a continuum. You can do things every day to improve your mental health and you can do things every day that may not really be serving well, the kind of food you e the places that you go to the people you spend time with each of those things can help build up that mental hell.
A conversation with Leah Charles-King
"Thank you so much for joining me coming onto chat dementia. Yours really appreciate you taking time. Getting on during the pandemic and lockdown in general with the pandemic in lockdown I think as somebody who has suffered depression and obviously by now for a number of years. I'm so used to be an isolated so it's almost like on one hand. I feel like contrained for this. So when it will happen I, was just cool. Take some quite east being isolated and mainly because of my own doing however, they have been moments where it's just hit me out of the blue. And I felt quite. So panicked too anxious cheerful could be something that is triggered off the telly or something like that, and you just fight my gosh, this is really happening. Yeah. I. Found a quad roller coaster like even move cited than just just normally disorder that's a bit of a road effective. This felt like. That like an extra layer of rice, stress and everything but yeah. Okay I guess everybody should have been fitting a bit like that regardless of what they they have. Yeah I think. For the first time, they'll be a lot of people experiencing anxiety and depression. He would never have felt those feelings before. especially. Coming out vase I think it's the second pandemic presently. Let's talk about you more that you've had fascinating career. Could you please stop telling us about a Latte from cliche crtv up till today wow. Just briefly. Well, I go go band scientists say knees ache when I was about twelve years old my cousins and I, the three vessels together. We were discovered singing at a family party. We kind of decided to get into a girl band he was just very organic. And Rest Gateway of our childhoods for many as but loved it. Until we signs about the age of fifteen sixteen and we release some songs, snitch shots and we had a great time we told you flying Ritchie and we music videos and bill posters, and this was the days where there wasn't social media. Sorry. Is really difficult. Is such a shame to not to have all those videos and pictures and things like that that people have now they suits in the nineties wants the group. is about two thousand, one about yields so obsolete repented. Got Into TV I saw an advert full crtv the telly that's children's it and I was actually really depressed I. Didn't want to send a tape at done the tape at that point Sheryl Rail, which literally was vhs. And you know Cheryl's on East Coast to be a couple of minutes long. This was like half an hour forty minutes of me to to random stop interviewing people and just random things and. Sent tape off on the very last day. Just to push myself to do it really depressed because the Greek attended we'll start record sale. And that was the first time that Caridi remember suffering depression by sending the tape pain tonight was months later it fell at least I think get coal off gang final decision. So. went out to Birmingham condition and then went three weeks of you know like. X factor style will do. Things now and it was the very beginning of a very beginning of like reality. TV. So yes. So the kids the kids to me in and I became the first and only black female continuity presenter on cit in it's full forty history to date and which is a great accolade thoughts in two thousand, nine, hundred, ninety s no, which I'm sure we'll on seven and Bay botch. It was a it was a great experience. It was a really great experience, and then I go ahead taunted onto Disney and then from Disney I thin starting working for be in America's red carpet, and then I a launched B. E. T. International Kristine K., in Europe. So up in a lot I for a lot of things in and fortunately just over twenty as now I've been TV presenter Sherry it's a long journey and it should jenny. Has Come with a lot adversity, a lot of oppression. Sexism racism. The equally here I am and I'm still going and I'm grateful it comes with some great memories as well and great experiences.
The Pandemic Has Researchers Worried About Teen Suicide
"The leading cause of death among our youth age 10 to 14 is suicide. And I think this is an absolute tragedy. In addition to what's going on in our veteran community and our are under served communities And this is where I think he's right. But the aggressive approach the aggressive steps we took to save lives, and now the expressive steps that we need to take to save livelihood. We understand what isolation does to people. We understand what happens to people adults as well. Within that leads to this depression. That leads to a lot of these things. What are we going to do about it other than say, when its sacred, the governor said opening schools can help, But the phrase here when it's safe is what was a little bit frustrating. We do believe inside the school environment when it's safe. The teacher The counselor. The parents, the piers can all be helpful in identifying someone who is suffering from depression or a mental health breakdown. In addition to the counselors and the therapist on that our young people can then access Those services. So when you say when it's safe, we met the bench marks. This is the part of this that is so frustrating. For the students that fit into the categories that were given here. And you're going to hear some statistics in a moment from Dr Cara Crist. And you can hear the emotion in her voice reading these If you've got a child that fits into these categories. In the classroom is the place that can fix it. And the numbers are where they are all of them in the place that they said they needed to be for schools to open. Why are we not doing it? This? Listen to what what Dr Chris has to say. And the emotion in her voice in 20 19/40 percent of Arizona students. Reported feeling sad or hopeless for almost every day. For two or more. This is higher than the national Estimate of 36.7%. And almost 21% of the high schoolers responded. And indicated that they had contemplated suicide. 16% had made a plan. 10% reported a suicide attempt. And 4% reported that the attempt resulted in an injury that required medical attention. The idea that This could be going on in your own home scares every parent and we all understand that there may be someone that our child will talk to it. It might not be us for a number of reasons doesn't mean there's any kind of a bad relationship. There's just a multitude of resource is they're around. They're professionals that are able to see these things and to notice them and do something about it. There's a number of things that this isolation has done that has been detrimental. That didn't mean that the nice isolation didn't need to happen necessarily. But there are pros and cons to everything and you have to weigh the benefits. You have to weigh the risk reward and
Pandemic taking harsh mental health toll on young adults
"Evidence today that the Corona virus pandemic has taken a harsh toll on the mental health of young American. A majority of Americans ages 18 to 34 say they have atleast sometimes felt isolated in the past month, compared with about 40% of older Americans. That's according to the latest covert response tracking study conducted by NRC at the University of Chicago, 25% of young adults who are going through life transitions like starting College and finding jobs rate their mental health as fair or poor. Compared with just 13% of older adults. I'm Shelly Adler.
Poll: Pandemic takes toll on mental health of young adults
"Get tested. There's a new poll out this morning that shows the Corona virus pandemic has taken a harsh toll on the mental health of young adults in the country is the latest covert response tracking study conducted by an O R C at the University of Chicago. They found that people between the ages of 18 and 34 were more likely to report negative feelings or experienced stress related symptoms like trouble sleeping. Than any other age group. Besides starting their adult lives during the pandemic, they're also dealing with a recession as they navigate life transitions like starting college or finding jobs without being able to experience normal
Youth suicide during COVID-19 is a growing concern in Arizona, state officials say
"Education. September is suicide prevention month in our state's schools Chief Cathy Hop in is making sure Arizona schools take park together. We can reduce the stigma around mental health, and we can ensure that every child in a dull in our schools feel safe, healthy and supported. Suicide is the leading cause of death For Arizona Children between the ages of 10 and 14 often says she's concerned. The ongoing pandemic will make things
Compromising: How and When
"My chickens how are you? I for one cannot believe that summer's over it is dark apm unacceptable. Don't understand what happened. I feel like I went through a wormhole. Like may was a thousand years long and now it's almost September it is over. The side story. But related. So I used to do this kind of tantric base meditation practice I studied with this teacher named Sally Kempton forbid not styled with her like she knew me personally but I went to her workshops teachings I, talked to her a few times. So anyway, the auto workshop she was doing California and I had this superintendent experience where I basically felt like everything in my. Body. All the energy rushed together and contracted in words to this pinpoint, and then it exploded and I felt like infinite space inside of me. It was really really fucking wild. So I went up to talk to her about it afterwards like in the receiving line everybody is talking about their meditation and she's just like moving us along and I was like Oh my God this like. This wild thing happened it blew my mind will a blind like describing it to her like and she just casually said. Oh. Yeah. You went through the wormhole. Like this was just like Mrs just like a known thing like no big deal like Oh. Yeah. The Worm Hall So. So many different ways of experiencing being a human this world really blows my mind. And I think it's always a reminder to me also of how many incredible tools there are for navigating the human experience. Obviously. Thought work is my favorite, but it's not the only thing in the world and I don't ever want to be dogmatic it right I think as humans. We want to be right and we want to be certain. We want to know the answer, but that's what makes us mentally rigid I. Talk about this. In the mental flexibility episode, we can get rigid about thought work itself that it has to be the one answer to the universe or the only thing that works make sense right that it has to be right. But it doesn't have to be objectively, right. We can't know that one hundred percent for sure. Even science even scientific consensus gets. Revised rate over time. We don't believe a lot of things that the best medieval scientists believed and in a thousand years there people are not gonNa believe a lot of things that are best scientists now believe is so just has to be right for you. What gets you the results that you want. Right, that's always the question. Is this helpful if it's helpful than use it wherever it comes from? So in the spirit of that kind of flexibility. Let's talk about compromise and this is gonna be assured and sweet episode because it's not actually a huge complicated topic it's just that we like to be confused about it. Kinda comes up a lot so I want to address. He's this is one of the things that I students tend to love to get confused about because when you are socialized as a woman and basically taught that you should constantly compromise on what you want to make other people happy. That becomes kind of baseline idea in your head right and so you start to feel guilty if you ever choose to not compromise and you. Start to think that you need a really good reason to not compromise. So you start to question and doubt yourself right and you start to feel defensive if you don't WanNa compromise and sometimes when that's the kind of mental and emotional state you're in, you learn thought work and you may be tempted to use it to just be okay with whatever someone else wants you to. Do so that you can go along with it and not have to deal with the discomfort of disagreement. So this would be a way of using thought work against yourself. Right? Like I talk about in one of the recent episodes if you are just trying to thought work to be okay with doing things, you don't WanNa do so that you don't have to deal with. Your own discomfort that's not the point of thought work right if thought work is to liberate you which means dealing with your own discomfort. Then the other thing that I see is sometimes people are coming from the opposite point of view right? Like part of their of awakening to gender socialization has been to really doubled down unjust never compromising like doing whatever the fuck they want. which is like I'm not saying that's good or bad right but. Sometimes, people than objective thought work because they think that believing thought work means. That you should just be okay with anything right? It's like A. To being tall your whole life that you should compromise. It can start to feel like a positive rebellion or independence to not compromise, and then people start to have this sort of adversarial relationship with thought worker with the ideas where they are like will you're just teaching people that you know they should compromise about anything because they can always change their thought about it. Of course no. Taking pride in not compromising is not really empowering either. Either you are thrall to your own fear of other people, and so you compromise all the time that is not empowering that feel good. But if you were in thrall to your own rebellion or ego that also does not feel good and is not actually empowering. Being too far in either direction is not empowering. You're going to notice a theme chickens, but the question is never properly posed as what should I do? Should I compromise or not? What action should I take? That is always the wrong question. The question is why are you compromising are thinking about compromising or why are you not compromising? What is the thought producing that action?
What Patients Are Saying About Antipsychotic
"In the early nineteen nineties about half of US patients with bipolar disorder took lithium now, it's closer to fifteen percent and the use of antipsychotic says more than doubled to fill that gap. A new survey reveals what patients think about these newcomers. This was an online survey of two hundred US adults who by their own report were diagnosed with bipolar one disorder and had taken an antipsychotic within the past year. Era Paul was the most common followed by Qu- Pina Spirit Own Olympian and Larizza on there are others that fell off after that. Overall people were satisfied with the efficacy but dissatisfied with the tolerability ninety, eight percent had at least one side effect on the NS psychotic and most of the side effects were not trivial. Ninety two percent felt the side effects had a negative effect on their relationships. Patients were embarrassed by the side effects. Particularly, anxiety weight gain followed by involuntary spasms or movements and trouble concentrating. I'm reminded here of Dr Magas Warning in June twenty nineteen issue on side effects that patients are not likely to put up with a side effect that they find socially embarrassing. The side effects that bothered people the most worrying Zaidi with gain and feeling like a Zombie or having no emotions And the rates of these three burdensome effects were large in the seventy percent range. ANTIPSYCHOTIC side effects carried over into all areas of life family, romance friendships, and work. Thirty to fifty percent felt that the anti psychotics impact their job sixty to seventy percent felt that the bipolar symptoms impacted their job. So from the patient's point of view, the side effects are a little better, but almost as bad as the disorder itself in the workplace. The bottom line while the PDR can tell us what side effects to expect surveys like this. Tell us just how damaging those side effects are. And the numbers here are much higher than what we see in the PDR. What's unclear is whether lithium or the Anti convulsants would raise the same level of complaint in
Are you ok? How are you dealing with lock down life?
"Hello, and welcome to another episode of the gun show. I am your host. Am I gonNA wardner? Shall we go through some bullet points? It's mid week episode say why not and these bullet points focus on? Are you? Okay And I'm asking this question. Because early on in the year when things all over the world and I know that we have listeners everywhere. Things will really uncertain all over the globe and we were going into lockdown and covid nineteen was new and completely unknown and we were we were checking in with each other a lot we checked in with each other on this podcast over on instagram where I met him guns over in the facebook group the link to join us in the show notes. And I speak for myself. But I definitely found easing into lockdown easier than easing out I found the implementation of strict guidelines to be rigid framework within which I could work and understanding that these are rules that needed to be followed. I've felt pretty comfortable adapting to them. It felt like these the rules this is what you've got to stick to. You know I can do that, and admittedly it was probably easier for someone like me who worked to themselves works mostly from home and lives alone have dependents or anyone else that I have to really worry about me. So look down life wasn't really a world away from my regular life and my work and social literally went online and I used to face to face. I, started to do on video calls however. Easing out and picking up the pace again has definitely not been a smooth which made me wonder how you're dealing with it and yes. It might be great villas. They were all easing back into something that resembles what used to be normal but these are really big changes that we're dealing with and navigating for the first time so I ask you again all you. Okay. And that seriously in very genuinely because it's a question that we ask each other often. But how many times you honest when you answer how often do you instinctively reply I'm fine. Thank you or good. Thanks. How are you just immediately deflecting it putting onto the other person without even really checking in with how you feel that how many times have you ask someone? Hey, how are you are you? Can you find McCain however you and you realize that you're on the third round of asking so the how how you doing? October a few times. Maybe it's just me no paying attention anyway. So the concept of being. Okay. Why this stems from, this comes from a psychologist Thomas Thomas Harris and in therapy focuses on rather than a place of perfection. Place of what's comfortable what feels good enough so it prompted me to think well, what does okay feel like obviously, it's going to feel different for everybody. But if you era to for no good reason, if you're short tempered judgmental, perhaps you're feeling judged you're angry maybe it's you're showing signs at just not particularly well. Often, all of the time. or You just feel bleak like the outlook is just bleak and this could be an indicator that you're not okay and. That's okay. Tube. There are steps that can be taken but when lockdown began I, started the series feel-good habits and this was with the intention of putting out. The sort of helpful hints stretched isn't techniques that could help steer someone listening you my most excellent listeners away from a crappy mood towards a better one. And then what you're telling me, you're finding value in these compositions, which is wonderful. So they're going to keep coming at new. But I also just wanted to share in a broader sense. Some of the things you can look out for that might help you identify not only when you're doing. Okay. But when you slightly off kilter and the reason I wanted to do this is because I have previously as a lot of longtime listeners. No, I was a few years ago diagnosed with depression anxiety and since therapy and feel as though on the other side of those things although it's always a work in progress, you always field was the expression they using them recovery. It's always in the darkness during press ups doing pull ups like making so it can come back but anyway. I feel as though, I could have prevented those things the depression anxiety. From becoming a severe as they ended up becoming if I had asked myself if I had gone through this checklist that I'm about to share with you. Because it went unchecked for such a long time so that by the time. We got to the point where we got to. It was pretty drastic. Felt like it for me anyway, and so this is why I wanted to share this checklist with you. So the first thing is how he functioning and by this I mean the daily stuff you have to do laundry washing, ironing, vacuuming getting are getting ready in the morning even brushing your hair. Any of this stuff in itself feel like a chore to You or do you feel exhausted after you've done it. And I can remember I'm I'm laughing about it. Now 'cause what else what else can you do but when I was depressed and didn't know it Used to dread vacuuming my flat I really liked how high no I really liked how the look afterwards but I used to dread it because in my head I would think, right? Yeah. You've got to get the vacuum cleaner out and then I think, yeah, the vacuum cleaners quite heavy. Yeah and I think the I think the thing when it's long enough and so actually when hoover it doesn't actually really hurt my back and The cool doesn't reach from that plug socket to the far end of the war, which means I have to unplug it and re plug it in, and it's it's a bit of a fast go Goya and say by the time I actually got to doing it. I had so many barriers between me and the actual task that it had become something really really big in my hand. and. So the only way I ended up being able to get around that was to time it Kalamazoo take me to clean the flat live in Paris. It was six minutes
How to overcome anxiety and just do it
"Just. The other day I was digging around my closet and I realized that fall was approaching and let's be honest. I've gained a few pounds over quarantine and noticed that I was becoming anxious about weather my jeans were going to fit. How many times do we encounter these little moments of anxiety and rather than ripping the band aid and taking care of them We, procrastinate. We let more and more of these small doses of anxiety pile up until we've got that big list of small things that were uncomfortable about. This week I challenge you to do it the second year feeling. Even the slightest bit of anxiety about something that won't take very long to alleviate. Just do it don't let that big list of small anxieties hieaux. Try this out for a week and see how you feel
Unsticking from a Busy Mind with Jessica Borushok
"Hey, guys welcome to not another anxiety show. I'm your host Kelly Walker and joining me today is the busy mind psychologist Dr, Jessica Abortion who helps people get unstuck from their busy minds. So they can be their best stuff. Thanks so much for joining us today. Thanks so much for having me. I'm so excited for this conversation I know. People are GONNA love it. It's GonNa be very valuable at least. I know it's going to be valuable for me. Valuable reach. In and Now I was hoping. Can you can you start by telling us a little bit about what a busy mind might look like because I imagine it can show up in different costumes that were not necessarily aware of at least I. Know I was. Of course, I mean, listen our minds are sneaky and a lot of times. We don't know when we're kind of caught up in our head or caught up in that that pattern of just getting sucked down that rabbit hole busy minds I like to think of it as if you're having those moments who anytime your mind is being taken out of the present moment if you're having a lot. Of like what if thoughts like what if this happens? Are you find yourself reflecting on past experiences tearing apart those experiences going over it well, past the point where it's helpful because that's the important piece. There are times when being in your head problem-solving analyzing planning is super helpful and it's a skill that we want to have. But then there's a point where it's no longer helpful and it just. Trying. We're worrying about something for the tenth time when we find ourselves getting really caught up in like should 's like, oh, I should do this or I have to do this or what if and those are kind of little clues to me that I'm getting sucked into my mind and my mind starting to kind of just do work instead of serving me. Okay. So that's how we can start to discern like the should have to what ifs can. Be Closer flags to help us discern. All right. This may have crossed the line from helpful productive, supportive resourceful to Counterproductive. Exactly. Okay. Great Now. Can can you tell us also how did you come to be in this niche of helping people get unstuck from their busy minds? Is there is their personal severe journey that played a part in developing your current here. Of course, there is A. Listen I have the busiest mind immune your world. I'm just in my natural default state I I'm a problem solver I like thinkings odds I like you know think he'd through different scenarios I find it really enjoyable and yet a gone through a couple scenarios in my life where I've struggled with mental health ends the busy mind has just gotten a little bit out of control and I've I've been in this state where I felt like my mind was controlling what's happening in my life instead of me. So back when I was early teens late twenties, I struggled with OCD now, a lot of times when people think of OCD. Hand washing and and concerns around germs. The MY OCD was much more surrounded by safety. So in the evenings I would do things like check the walks ten times you'll make sure there no one was in my room I just a lot of almost kind of paranoia type thoughts around safety and around making sure that I was doing everything I could to make sure that I was safe and unfortunately what ends up happening is your mind starts going. Well, what if this what if someone somehow snuck into your room one if even though you checked. That the stove was off, it really wasn't and those thoughts would then feed all of these behaviors because I'd get so overwhelmed. So anxious in response to that it's like, oh, we'll. We'll. What if I mean if it's it just takes two minutes to go check the stove and make sure that it's turned off. But if I don't check at the House, could burn down and so that was my first experience of seeing how that good analytical part of my mind could be used against me and going to therapy for a couple of sessions I did. A did exposure plus response prevention, which is the most common treatment for OCD, and I'm happy to say it hasn't been an issue in my life for about eight years, which is really great. It's still pops up from time to time but it. I now in control of how I respond to it and I think that's the key it's not necessarily that will ever permanently delete these types of thoughts but as long as we're not feeding them. They're not. We get to decide what happens next
It's Okay To Admit You're Not Okay by Melani Schweder
"It's okay to admit you're not. Okay. Bye Melanie sweeter of a brighter wild dot com. Hello dear friends. If you're anything like me, you're probably quite accustomed to putting on a smile and acting fine even when you're not sometimes, we can't avoid work school or social situations. No matter how we're feeling and we don't always feel comfortable dragging around our demons with us. So we lift up the corners of our mouths, cover up the pain and Spat out empty catchphrases in the guise of staying positive. We even do this to ourselves. Sitting at home alone were staring into the mirror we talk up little inspirational sayings and force are nagging little mental demons back into the dark corners. This is probably something that everyone can at least partially relate to but his practically a cornerstone of the chronically ill community. We are afraid of being a Debbie Downer afraid of being vulnerable afraid of being set apart from the rest of our friends and coworkers, and so the masks go on we say everything's okay even if we're exhausted or depressed or in a painful flare up. Even I find myself repeating the same phrase. When asked the obligatory `non-question question how are you? Oh, I'm doing well and you it's almost like someone has pulled an invisible string in my back prompting the exact response regardless of how I'm actually feeling that day. Maybe you find yourself doing the same. And just so we're clear I'm not advocating for spilling your guts out whenever someone simply tries to make small talk. There's a time and place for sharing your truce and struggles plus it's honestly just as bad to respond to someone asking how you are with I'm so stressed or tired or depressed or angry each and every time that's not a helpful way to interact with the world either perhaps you know someone who takes these opportunities to launch into a pity-seeking diatribe about their latest symptoms or doctors, appointments, more career failures, and perhaps your reaction to this person only reinforces your smile and fake it till you make it approach just something ponder. But this blog is really about allowing yourself to be exactly where you are right now instead of pretending or putting on a show, there's a pervasive oppression in the positivity and spiritual communities that tend to make us feel ostracized for experiencing a depth of painful and sometimes uncomfortable emotions. pain or fear or despair, and we are told to simply get rid of those feelings and replace them with something Shinier in prettier and happier. But the problem is emotions just don't work that way. When we stuff down our darkness, we only invite in more anxiety and shame wrapping are already blue moods in a blanket of self loathing embarrassment for those of us on. A healing adventure it's hard not to get sucked into the cult of positive thinking our brains absorb all the quickey facebook posts and motivational quotes, and soon, we begin to think that our ability to feel a wide range of emotions. Both good and bad might be an unhealthy think. Maybe we should only be feeling morm- fuzzy positive things. Then maybe we will finally heal ourselves. no let's just stop right there. Yes being optimimistic and choosing to focus on the lessons and opportunities, and all of Life's challenges is a good thing and can help you feel better. But you know what place real healing comes from self acceptance when you allow yourself to feel everything fully to sit with each thought and emotion until you've seen their every angle, that's when you start to heal when you accept yourself as beautifully flawed human being with both shadow an light aspects. That's when you start to heal when you allow yourself to be afraid and vulnerable and let love and support into your life. That's when you start to heal. You don't heal by denying your pain you only he'll when he walked through it. When something is kept invisible that thing tends to grow stronger, right so stop fighting with your own truth and allow yourself admit you're not okay. Sometimes, you can scream it in your car during rush hour traffic. You can softly side into your to your Sochi Yoga Mat. You can see it in therapy or over coffee with your best friend. It doesn't matter so much the method just that you're allowing yourself to be where you are without judgment. Dark things live within all of us is not just you all we can experience fear pain desperation loneliness Malays and lots more things that maybe we think we shouldn't be feeling but by denying them or sugar coating them, we're only letting them grow and fester until we're sick with self negation. So ask yourself how am I really feeling right now what is going well in my life and what are the things that I want to change? What is making me anxious or depressed or angry, and how can I allow those feelings to just be? I've been do some very dark places in my own life with six years of illness already passed a recent painful divorce and unexpected move out of my beloved home and current career and financial pressures. Yes. I think of tasted the unique flavor of every emotion on the spectrum at this point Augusta Tori journey of doubt and fear freedom and heartbreak pain an awakening. I've been lucky to have a beautiful few people who then runaway upon seeing my suffering they simply held space for me to feel what else feeling in the moment no judgment. No shame. No frenzied attempts at fixing me. I felt safe in that space to admit I wasn't okay. Are you ready to hold that kind of space for yourself? I hope you are or at least in the time being a hope you have a beautiful few people of your own who can hold it for you. Just remember everything you're feeling and experiencing is just perfect. You are exactly where you are supposed to be let yourself explore the shadows as well as playing the light.
Depression, anxiety spike amid outbreak and turbulent times
"Of Americans may be experiencing symptoms of depression during the pandemic. That's a rate higher than during large scale traumas like 9 11 and Hurricane Katrina. From no more Now we're joined Live on the KCBS Ring. Central News Line. By Kathryn Dettman Study author with Boston University School of Public Health. Thanks so much for being with us this afternoon. Thank you for having me, Marty. Well, first. How did you tally these very high rates. Sure. So we found that one quarter of Americans reported depression. And as you know, this represented a threefold increase over what it was before Cove it and third that people with fewer resources were the ones who are more likely to have depression. So who are the people most impacted by depression symptoms and what are these Depression symptoms? So, for example, people with lower income were twice as likely to have depression and among people with the same income but who had left than 5000 and family savings. They were 1.5 times more likely to have depression. How is this different from 9 11 and Hurricane Katrina? These rates are higher than what we have seen in the general population after other large scale trauma like September 11, Turkey and Katrina and the Hong Kong unrest. For example, After September 11th in Manhattan, we found around a 10% prevalence of reported depression symptoms. This is much higher than what we have seen after other traumas.
Thinking about breathing makes my anxiety worse
"We often receive questions about how to slow anxious breathing down or what to do and breathing exercises make anxiety feel worse and that's what we're going to be talking about. Welcome back. Nanga. Nation. Thought. This was a particularly interesting conversation to have because I haven't had the experience, but we've heard from so many who have that sometimes breathing is a trigger for anxiety. What's that all about sometimes when we have an experience with breathing that's uncomfortable than it can become a trigger. So if we have an anxiety attack then we sometimes have sensation that breathing's becoming difficult or sometimes when we feel really panicked with sacom breathe or I feel like I can't breathe. So then to. Try, and bring your attention to the breath. Becomes challenging because fixating on something that's. impove the anxiety experience before so sometimes. That can happen. which ties right back into what happens to us with how things I'd when you start to pay attention the physical sensations that are occurring in your body and Experience all the anxiety around that as a result now that makes sense. Yeah absolutely. Successfully, how it walks. And this really I guess begins. Then when we noticed that are breath has become a trigger. Whether it's rapid or shallow breathing or. However that affects you. When you start to feel anxious. This is reminded me of a question we had. Some time ago about somebody, the unnoticed exertion was increasing their. Anxiety. It was a chapter at lifted very heavy television into the back of Van Helping Somebody Move House, and he starts to fill up short of breath and he started happening episode. And didn't make the connection the overexertion fill. For, similar. Elevated, heart rate shore breath feeling the you know you need to sit down from an at, take him in. Unda was only when we had a conversation and I said, what were you doing when when you start to fill up ninety stars hope hoping a mate move will lift in these big televisions that Aladdin's realized. Oh you're exerted, but it feels. Similar or even the same. But again, as we've discussed in recent episodes, it's the mind making thing of the minds Mike and a story out of that sure because he anxious mind will always go to that negative bypass of of what might be wrong. So same with breathing if we're feeling anxious already amway becoming sensitized to breathing sensation symptoms in our body feelings in our body around breathing. Borough forward vast upon our attention that because it just fills was is like folks in on the thing that's already raising red flag to his thing it's elevated. Sure an fortunately, there are other things in addition to breathing that can calming as Diety, and the key is to keep trying different practices until you find one that you can trust. Again the mind will always tell you this doesn't work. A certain comment recently from somebody said in I've tried tapping it looks delay doesn't work and the just this week received a message from. Young friend of Mine Who's completely starring cited tax with tapping. That's awesome. A among told me she just taps all the time just taps all the time and she completely gone top of it does work hit does it really works? In watching it work in feeling it worked for twenty years. So yeah, we just need to. Give things go. Challenge. Your own mind when it says nothing works an experiment until you find will helps you.
Conversation with the head of mental health startup Frame Teletherapy
"Hey Candle. Thank you for coming onto the show they are having me. Yeah. It's certainly being a crazy period of time right now at the time of this recording, we're not only facing a pandemic, but also simultaneously a heatwave and wildfires here in California one could say is little bit much right now and in this little surprised that we're feeding a little bit more. Stressed and anxious than usual. I'm saying this because we couldn't have found a better time to record this podcast about Tele therapy and your business frame. Maybe you can tell us what frames all about. Yeah. So I am the CO founder and CEO Frame the mental wellness platform that makes it easier to connect with therapists mid different ways both in person and digitally we actually Offered to core services on our platform the first one is for people who I've never been therapy and just WANNA, learn a little bit more about it and for them we offer our digital discussions which are livestream conversations between licensed therapist and volunteer participants that you can watch anonymously from the comfort of your own home. So it's like a veteran or how should imagine. It. So basically, what we do is we wanted to create a way for people to see what happens in an actual therapy session. So it's completely free product. It's available to everyone in the country and these conversations mirror what a real therapy session would be like in real life. So we've on boarded in trained licensed therapists from all over the country they we pick different. Topics, and then we bring on volunteer participants. These are real people who share their real problems on camera and you can listen and we actually built a custom platform so that you can actually watch lives men. There's interactive tools where you can submit questions in therapist answers them for you at the end of the recession or if you WANNA watch on your own time. We have a content library of the past recorded sessions. Wow. That's great unlike just to give us an idea what what sorts of topics being discussed on their great asset because you again, I really wanted to create a product that sort of educates people not only on what happens in therapy the different types of therapies even work with also about the different topics and so. We really try to pick topics that are relevant to what's going on right now. So obviously, we launched actually during covid where a new startup and obviously it was a really hot topic right there to talk about working right home adjusting to life. We actually did a lot of topics around people who are losing their jobs during Cova did and now we shifted to. The black lives matter. Movement we we did a series on racial trauma and how it's affected different people from different perspectives, and now we've been really focusing of recently on burn out and how people are really sort of just feeling. So achieved and down about the current situation in the world in how you identify Burnett, and how you deal with that, right? Yeah I can. Totally imagine that with many of us actually working from home right now and not taking any vacation burn notice on the horizon for many of us exactly, and then we actually have a second service on a platform of for those that are ready to talk with therapist one on one we have a therapy matching service and we actually will match you as a therapist. Based on your personal needs. So you end you come onto our platform you answer ten questions we give you six options of therapist matches, facilitate free intro call. So you can call a couple of get a sense for me. Thank you connect with best and then you scheduled to our platform you do the video sessions or a platform and you pay for farm. So it's A one stop shop for therapy and how does like you matching algorithm matched me like what what do you like through those ten questions in how does that look actually on the therapist end? Yeah. So we spent a lot of time building out the matching algorithm. My co-founder sage grazer is a licensed therapist so that really helped but while we were building the product. We actually brought in about ten to twenty therapists and we interviewed them and we got a better sense for how they screen for clients in real life, and we use those inputs to help build our algorithm but I think another important factor of this is that you algorithms can't fully predict chemistry. So just like a dating APP, you go on multiple dates before you find. Your soulmate, and so we really wanted to create that experience as well. We're not gonNA just pick a therapist for you. So we really focused on getting the right types of therapists in front of you, and then we want to empower our users to pick the therapist and we're getting a lot of anecdotal feedback that saying I've actually called three or four of the. Therapists on the lesson. This one happened to be a college athlete and so was I. we really connected on that and those are just things that you're not gonna get an intake form on them out organically when you're having this conversation because it's really hard to judge a therapist just based on his profile resume, right? So I, I can totally imagine that you know approach. To Kinda Dede's a few therapists to find the right fit for me. Exactly and it's really about therapy is different than other doctors. You know when you're getting surgery, you kind of want to know where the doctor go to school and how many surgeries have been done when it comes to therapists. It's really about who do you feel most comfortable talking to I. Honestly. Couldn't even tell you where my therapist got her masters for around and you know I've been to some of the most you know world renowned therapists. I've waited six months to see them and you don't necessarily click with them. So it's really just about that. There is that sort of live interaction that you can. You can only feel for when you're talking to yourself rights.
CALM, The Campaign Against Living Miserably
"Simon welcomes mentally ill thanks very much for joining me. So, can we start off just with the basics tell us about com what exactly does it do? com is the campaign against living miserably, which is an excellent name and adds up to com. Ca Yellen we are we're suicide prevention, organization So our I guess chosen Lens on the world is suicide. an and that's to us as a barometer of how well society is doing and. How it needs to be fixed. In two thousand, eighteen, nineteen, the office of National Statistics numbers showed the suicide in the UK by eleven, percents, and that's off to a steady plateauing of numbers. So we can see there's something. Happening across society in the UK The needs to be addressed that now that of course, he's pretty coded pre lockdown pre economic impact or those kinds of things. So the way way tackle suicide. Is. Three one as we campaign for Societal and personal change. So we with big. Brands. The everybody will know like. TV and Dave and spotify and talk shop top man TESCO and. They just the list goes on and on positive messages people to enable them to change behaviors, which they preach may be damaging to seek help to help people around them epitomised thing by a recent partnership that we launched with Carling. Calling of the L. Become Caring and. Working there to help people. Coffee a macaw themselves also campaigning that we do is to societal change result. Of thing, we did projects four in two, thousand, eighteen, two years ago. With it in this morning we. Were responsible for the appointment of the first of A. Mischief assault prevention. So that's campaigning The second leg on stole if you like is cooled collective, which is where we bring people together will though virtually now around shed passion points. Running and And football and those kind of things when we allow people to join groups through the complexes the final on. The most. Tangible output of where we where we raise money and what we spend it on his help line, which is open from five till midnight seven days a week for anyone that needs it whatever agenda whatever you need when non-judgmental and hotline staffed by Professionals by people who are paid to work on the outline and their that to give advice to help people whether you're at your wit's end and suicide is is becoming an option will help you with a You might be feeling just a little bit. Wait it out by what's going on right now I now I am on most people with to help you any with anything that you need. You might be feeling fine worried about somebody else without help Yugoslavia all no matter what com is there to help. You have a happy life and to try to Change Society for the better. I'm what about you? Personally, when did you get involved in? Why did you want to get involved with this charity in particular? Up I've never worked for charity or been involved in mental health tool I. Wilson Television in the business and then lastly, in appetizing don't judge me but I I was literally run up by the Chairman James skulks to say why you why senior life will advising advertising agencies on stuff coming through something worthwhile for four months and of site. That's three and a half years in is fantastic. It's calm. I. Think he's attractive to so many people because we don't behave like a charity. Now, that is any way to denigrate chows as a child. She's fantastic. Brilliant things Supplement stuff that arguably government should be doing but did have have real profound pup calm is a charity but we behave and communicates in ways which may be more like a a modern brand. So we communicate through music and comedy and football, and running and cycling, and or those kind of things which we tap into popular culture So we've seen huge growth in the last three years most notably in the use of helpline, which is which is more than double. So it's a brilliant privileged to be able to run the thing.
Practicing non-confrontational ways to honor yourself
"Email about year and a half ago that I want to read to you is old I know but it has a topic that I want to talk about. It's about transitioning from being one of those balancing people pleasing type of people to somebody with healthier boundaries and someone who stands up for themselves honors themselves in situations and the people that knew the old you have to get used to the new you but how do you transition? From being someone who used to be that type of people pleaser neutralizer balance Type Person. Into someone who has the healthier boundaries and isn't so much about pleasing everyone else. But showing up on a way of caring for yourself and others. And sometimes that involves caring for yourself I. If not always. Caring for yourself, first. Because if you're the type of person that I used to be, I wanted to make sure that everyone else was pleased. Everyone else liked me everyone else cared about me and I cared about their opinions of me. then. If that was you or is you than life can be more difficult? Life used to burn me out because I was like that. And I'm not GonNa talk too much about people pleasing today. I've had episodes the civically dedicated to that but I think a lot of us have these qualities that we walk around. With that. We might look at as Highness and Caring and being helpful to other people. But in reality it's actually an energy drain for us. So if you ever feel like your kindness and your caring and your helpfulness is an energy drain. You're doing it wrong. You're doing it. All wrong because kind caring and compassion and generosity in support all of these wonderful qualities that you can have and probably do have inside of you. Have to come from a place of self care and that place of self care is what gives you the abundance of energy and the abundance of love and compassion that you can use on someone else because you have enough of it. When you have enough self care self love and self compassion self respect. When you have enough of that, then you have enough to give away. It's like if you have plenty of cash, you have plenty of cash an extra leftover you have plenty to give away or buy something for someone or whatever. I I believe it works in the same way where we have these resources at our disposal and in order to be able to be a kind caring loving generous person to someone else we have to have enough of those resources. Doesn't mean that we can't be kinder carrying a generous to somebody else. There are people that are very poor that give to other people. Back and be financially poor that can be emotionally poor. That can mean a deficit in their own love and support in their life. Yet they still give to others. But even if that's true, the idea behind what I'm talking about today is to give to others without losing anything without losing your power because giving to someone else whether that's kindness caring or respect or even money giving to someone else usually requires you to have somewhat of an abundant supply to be able to give. And this is why people pleasers get burnt out. Is because they don't have that abundant supply they just have enough. To give, and then they hope that the person they're giving to reciprocates so that they can reenergize.
What helps morning anxiety
"This week were talking about how to calm morning anxiety as many a lesser facing returning to work or have children who are returning to school or heading off to. College. High Nanga. How are you today Haitian? I'm good. Thank you. So good to be with you again to talk about a subject that we really haven't addressed in quite some time, but we're getting a lot of questions about. So let's dive right into how we can help ourselves when we suffer with morning and diabetes when I suffered with anxiety my youth late teens early twenties morning anxiety became. A. Real thing for me. It was very debilitating and I would wake up every morning feeling. Extremely. Shaky and nauseous and found it really hard to step into my day. What are some of the symptoms of morning anxiety? Symptoms of winning Zaire often the same as the symptoms of general anxiety in my experience with the addition of nausea and loss of appetite. That's particularly common with morning anxiety. But otherwise, the usual symptoms, rapid heartbeat, tight chest, shortness of breath physical tension, muscle tension, the body, a strong feelings of anxiety or sense of dread about facing the day ahead and feeling confused mentally overwhelmed like everything's just too much to face. And thankfully, and we have lots of suggestions for how to make that better. But before we go there, let's talk about some of the causes of morning anxiety. It's usually caused by the same factors also contribute to Jim rulings anxiety combined with that stress an overwhelm of facing a new day, and then also there's the natural increase in stress hormones that can happen for us first thing in the morning. I remember. Being much more anxious when I had a workplace that I traveled to than than, I, do now having my own business. Everything that needed to be done before going and then becoming a mom and. Adding in caring for my daughter and getting ready and getting off to work and all of the things that come at us we have so many things that we juggle. So it's no wonder that we can have these feelings of discomfort in the morning. It's other things that can also cause issues in the morning. Low Blood Sugar If you drink alcohol the night before. The anticipatory anxiety can come sometimes before a big day at work or Big Day at school in the negative self-talk those gremlins and our brain can get assault up and then of course, negative news and TV. Film anything that's coming through your screens that is agitating. All contribute. And then this, the fact that the transition from being asleep to being awake is quite a strong transition for the body certainly for somebody that's suffering with anxiety we go from you know being not really conscious of what's going on around us too often. Waking up with an alarm clock or a sudden jolt and kind of sitting out and thinking Oh this is what I have to deal with I. If you're already suffering anxiety that stuff can really hit you in domino effect unruly stack up course strong stress response strong anxiety response in the body. The good news is this is something that can be very much supported unchanged. I think that alarm clocks are really. Not. Okay. Yeah me too truly. I'm grateful for the alarm clocks that play soothing music or wound do something that will help you transition from sleep to being awake Ursus loud buzzers and and things that jolt you away. They just 'cause a sense of anxiety on hearing them, which is why so many people throw them across the room or hit snooze if there's a way that you can figure out how to get up without that jolt with a little bit more softness and sweetness.
Acute anxiety: Internet searches for key words spiked to all-time high early in pandemic
"See if you're included in this stat. There is no doubt the pandemic has made many of us anxious. But listen to this Internet searches for the words, panic or anxiety attacks increased from mid March to May, Researchers at the University of California, San Diego, found there were nearly 3.5 million searches for the attacks. In the two months following the March 13th declaration of a national emergency searches went up again when the CDC first recommended face masks and then again when the US surpassed Italy for the
Building A Kinder And Braver World
"Born this way foundation, we recently celebrated our eighth birthday. So we've been around for eight years and some change, and our mission is to build a kinder braver world we were founded by Lady Gaga and her mom's Cynthia Germany. And we were born out of the personal experiences that Lady Gaga had growing up. She was a unique creative APP, spirited person that you see today from a very early age. and. oftentimes for young people when they're different and unique that's viewed as a liability instead of an asset and Lady Gaga like so many young people faced cruel of cruelty and meanness and bullying, and she was clear from a very early age that she wanted to dedicate her treasure her time in her talent to making sure that kinder braver world is possible that young people not only survived but that they were able to thrive. So our work at born this way foundation is really about the wellness of young people we work with them to foster healthy conversations about mental house, connecting young people to the resources that they need around their mental health and creating opportunities for people to recognize, prioritize, and practice kindness towards themselves and others the the work has three main goals that I spend time on every day with the incredible team. The first is to make kindness. Cool. The second is to validate the emotions of young people around. The world and the third is to eliminate the stigma that surrounds mental health. So brilliant and congratulations on your birthday that that's really great. Thank you. So what kind of age range is it that you're working with because you said young people? Yeah. That's a great question. So I, the majority of the young people that the foundation works with fall between the thirteen to thirty five age ridge we believe young people. This generation are real uniquely positioned to solve problems for themselves and for society as a whole lady Gaga. Of Our team, actually also fit within that age range. So we're part of this. Diverse inclusive collaborative, hopeful generation. But because of WHO Lady Gaga is in the world, we are fortunate enough to have community members ranging from my five year old daughter to grandma Gaga who is an incredible older lady who's just a huge fan and supporter of our work. We've a really diverse community at the foundation and we're very proud of that. We're kind of. The foundation do in terms of you mentioned in that signposting young people, tools, resources how does it go about doing that? That's a great question. Thank you so much. So they're the the work that the foundation does fall in two buckets that I is the work that we do around kindness in. So we're gearing up right now for one of my favorite campaigns every year it's called be kind twenty one and you can join us and follow it. Hashtag be kind twenty one we know from science than if you do something for twenty one days in a row at the, there's a higher likelihood of it becoming a habit and with kindness kindness isn't this transactional one time event or offering. It's really habit a muscle that we need to us over and over again. So this campaign was built three years ago by the the sadness and unease of a young mom who s boileau spoiler alert was me. Whose son was starting kindergarten I, you would've thought my son was going off to college the way that I was emotionally preparing for him to be in kindergarten and I met with his principal and she asked if I would be interested in volunteering in the school and I made a joke. That unless it had something to do with kindness, which was the work that I focused on at the foundation I. Wouldn't be able to do it since I spent so much time traveling, and so she was smart enough at to sign me a role with an elementary school that focused on kindness and that's how kind twenty one was born initially built it for my son's kindergarten class. The first year we had four, hundred, forty, thousand people sign up a resulting over one point of kindness. Last year, we had a little bit over one point eight million people sign up resulting in forty, two, million unique acts of kindness. So that's one of my favorite. Very, personal campaigns that we do around kindness in the bucket of mental health. Really Proud of the partnership that we have with the National Council on Behavioral Health we've worked with them to pilot a program called Keen Mental Health First Aid, which teaches ten through twelfth graders, the vocabulary, the resources, the knowledge around their mental health I'm I'm thirty six years old than I when when I was in high school and when I was in college I was never. taught about mental health I was never. In in class or after class talked about talk to about how to seek resources had to get help how to talk to a friend that struggling and partnership with the National Council. We want to change that and we want to embed conversations around mental health into the curriculum. So we were really proud to host that program in eighty three school walls this past year, and we're looking at expanding in in the fall.